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47 – Take a Big Leap into Genius!

by Jill

Understand many of the reasons that you don’t achieve your goals in life are because of an Upper Limit Problem. That means that you feel like you don’t deserve to get your goals or you’re not capable of getting them. Maybe you think other people will be upset with you.

If you get what you really want, remember, you want to make sure that you get out of the Zone of Incompetence. You get out of the Zone of Competence. You even get out of the Zone of Excellence. That’s the most dangerous one. Work your way into the Zone of Genius.

Remember the four hidden barriers. Those are unconscious barriers that will prevent you from getting the goals that you really want. Don’t feel fundamentally flawed, like you can’t get what you want. Don’t feel that this is disloyal, or you’ll be abandoned by other people. If you get what you want. Don’t believe anyone who tells you that getting what you want will be a more considerable burden and take more of your time to take more of your effort. When you get what you want, the new tasks seem like nothing. You get more done. And you give up the things that you don’t want to do

Write down a paragraph that talks about what it would look like if you’re doing all the things inside your Zone of Genius. What would your day look like? What would your life look like? How exciting would it be to live your new life? How energizing would it be to do those things every day?

Get into your Zone of Genius by thinking about the things that are effortless for you. That time just slips away. They call it being in the flow. Then look at the things that drag you down and feel like they take a long time. It’s hard for you to actually get them done. Time is so slow when you’re doing these things because you don’t like it. Maybe you’re not even good at it. Make sure that it incorporates your unique abilities and the things you love to do.

Remember the Enlightened No, which means anything that is not inside your Zone of Genius. You say no. Obviously, that’s easy for you to do when you’re in control of your whole life. Many times at work, you can’t say no to things. But when you can, make sure that you don’t say yes to the things that are not helping you stay inside your Zone of Genius.

Challenge

  • Pick one thing you’re doing today that is not inside your Zone of Genius. Maybe it’s inside your Zone of Excellence. Say the Enlightened No to it. Stop doing it now!

Links

https://hendricks.com/product/the-big-leap/

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46- The Only Thing to Fear is Getting Stuck

by Jill

Summary

  1. Try to analyze what it is you’re afraid of. Should it be giving you this much fear? Talk to a friend, and see if they can help you gain perspective. Try to do some anxiety-relieving activities like deep breathing. Try to move away from the thoughts that are causing you to have problems.
  2. To try to re-label your fear as excitement, anticipation. I’m not afraid. I’m just really excited about this. So then just start doing some tiny bit of activity that will help you feel better about what you’re doing.
  3. Identify exactly what it is you’re afraid of. What do you think the best-case scenario is if everything goes right? What is the worst-case scenario? Imagine what you think will go wrong and how you can overcome it by planning ahead.. Then, think of some strategies that will help you achieve your goal instead of falling into whatever pit you’re feeling will happen and cause you this amount of pain.
  4. Prepare yourself. Create a plan of all the things that you need to do to achieve your goals. Then, look at what you can do to prepare yourself. Is that building a resume? Is that buying a plane ticket? Is that getting a microphone so you can start your own podcast? Start to prepare for the plan that you created to overcome your fear. Get all the right tools in place and all the necessary pieces in place. Figure out what you already have and what you have to get to make your plan come true. Take the first step and just make everything so small, you couldn’t possibly be afraid of it.
  5. Realize that you’re just going to have to learn and continue to do better. If things don’t go the way you hoped, they will figure out what went right? What went wrong? How can you do better than next time? The best way you can overcome fear is by taking these little steps, seeing that it wasn’t catastrophic. Learn through the process, and then retake the next step better. Once you’ve had some success. You got over your fear. Celebrate and give yourself a treat that will really certify that you achieved your goal. You overcame your fear. Think about how you accomplished it. Next time you have a fear, you have a new plan.
  6. Just remember, everybody’s afraid. But a lot of people are doing what you’re doing too. So try to analyze it and realize fear is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes it makes us try harder. So do a little bit better and take that fear and turn it towards your advantage.

Challenge

  • Make a list of what you fear most, and doing that would have the most significant impact on your life. Next, write down what it is you’re actually afraid of. What’s the worst thing that could happen? Then write down the best thing that could happen if you took this on. Try to analyze if it’s worth overcoming your fear and then decide what your assets are. What would you need to do to get your goal, and what do you have already?
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2021Goals

45 – Growing from People You Admire

by Jill

Summary

We examine the life of Dwayne Johnson, Charles Schultz, Grace Hopper, Frederick Douglas, Malala Yousafzai and apply the Genius Notebook rules to them.

  • Create a summary of achievements, quick biography of all the different landmarks they made in their lives.
  • Answer the question about how it relates to you. For example, why do you admire this trait?
  • Trait this particular person’s life and how it is beneficial to you? What do you think that you could learn from that?
  • Write up a list of traits and indicate which traits you share with that person and which ones you don’t share?
  • What does the trait look like in your daily life?
  • How does this trait fit in your dreams, your goals, anything that you wish to attain
  • Could the traits help you in your love-life, work-life, and daily personal life?
  • Do a creative challenge based on the person’s life. Make it interesting!

Challenge

  • Pick on a person who you could use the lessons that they’ve learned in their lives, the traits they have in their lives, and make your life better to make the world a better place.
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2021GoalsTools

44 – Analyze Geniuses to Change Your Life

by Jill

Summary

  1. Pick 10 people you admire that mean something to you and have traits that help them succeed in areas you want to succeed in.
  2. Write down the summary of achievements and the traits they have that made them so amazing. Then compare the traits to the characteristics that you share with them. Next, come up with a list of traits that you don’t have that they have that you would like to attain. What do those traits look like every day? How do they fit in your love life? In your work life in your daily life? Then figure out a strategy of how could you achieve those traits and make them a part of your character?
  3. Find out how you can take these traits you either have or wish to cultivate and put them into your dreams. What are your plans? What would you love to do someday? How can you take the aspects of those characters and apply them so that you can achieve your goals? Come up with unique ways to analyze the character, whether you’re drawing a coat of shields, a logo for your life, or you’re writing down the harshest insults you can think of in a creative literary way.

Challenge

  • Come up with a list of 10 people that you admire, then get a journal, whether it’s on paper, or digital and start your work on your own genius journal.

Link

Discover Your Genius: How to Think Like History's 10 Most Revolutionary Minds
How to Think Like Leonardo da Vinci: Seven Steps to Genius Every Day

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2021Psychology

43 – Get Ahead with High-Performance Habits

by Jill
  1. Try to find answers to whether or not you have the six skills it takes to be a high-performance person by taking the test on his website. Remember that most of the things in your life don’t have to do with your circumstance. They are actually related to the high-performance habits.
  2. When it comes to your personal actions. Seek clarity and know exactly what it is you want.. Generate energy by making sure you’re getting the right food, the right exercise, and that you’re getting enough sleep at night. Whatever is draining you of your energy, make sure that you stop it. Gain what you need to do to power through your day. Raise the necessity of your actions inside you.
  3. Increase the high-performance habits that are based on your social activity. This means increasing your productivity, working with your team to make sure you get things done, make sure that you’re doing the right things, you’re keeping the main thing in focus. Ensure you’re actually accomplishing the correct actions. Develop influence with your team and with your family. That comes with building trust. Lastly, demonstrate courage. Be bold and take action. If you don’t show courage, people might fall away from you because they don’t trust what you’re doing or they don’t think you have what it takes to get it done, or they don’t know that you really believe in what you’re doing. By being bold, they will see that you’re serious.
  4. Figure out the skills you need to get things done. Know what it will take to actually increase your productivity. Know what skills you need to get those things done and accomplish your goals.
  5. Try to avoid the characteristics that are detrimental to being a high-performance person. For example, don’t be a dabbler and just have a passing interest. Don’t try this, and then try that without really fulfilling the plan you’ve decided to fulfill. Don’t be a novice where you are interested in the projects, but you really don’t know what needs to get done. And so you don’t get there. Don’t be an amateur, where you know something, but you don’t know enough to actually accomplish your goals.
  6. Understand that as soon as you start getting some of your high-performance skills, the others will fall into place. As you gain clarity, you’ll gain energy. As you gain energy, you’ll gain productivity. So don’t feel overwhelmed. If you’re just starting at the beginning.

Challenge

  • Try to think of three skills that you need to develop to be successful this year. What three things can you learn that ensure that you have high performance? Then, write those down and start figuring out ways where you could get those skills? Can you take a class? Is there a book with that skill? Or is there a mentor or someone who could teach you how to gain those skills?

Links

High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way by [Brendon Burchard]
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2021Communication

42 – Identify Your Core to Gain Presence

by Jill

Summary

  1. Identify your true self by finding the three words that describe you. Figure out what’s unique about you and when you’re at your happiest and best performance.
  2. List what your signature strengths are and how you tend to use them. And once you have these items, identify your values. Is it religion? Is it fitness? Is it your work life, and then write a small paragraph that incorporates these together. She calls it an essay so that you can reflect on it when maybe you’re not feeling so strong about it or you need to convince yourself what you’re really passionate about.  
  3. Make sure you’re confident but not arrogant. Allow other people to tell their stories. Allow them to be themselves. That way, your power shows through without being arrogant or being a narcissist
  4. Find the things that make you feel powerful. When you feel empowered, other people will feel empowered. You will start building energy off of each other. Powerlessness prevents you from having presence and prevents you from being your authentic self.

Challenge

  • We’re going to do the challenge that was mentioned before. Start the work on developing your essay about your true self, and lay the groundwork. You want to figure out when you are at your best and what makes you at your best. Find out those three best words that describe you. Find the things that are unique about you. Reflect on when you feel the best or most natural, and then list your signature strengths and how you use them. Do you use them to help other people? Do you use them to make your work better? Or do you use them to lift other people up? Those items will help you identify your values, your traits, your strengths so that you can start your essay about your authentic self.

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41 – Be Genuine to Have Presence

by Jill

Summary

  1. Try to find ways so that your body matches the things that are coming out of your mouth. Make sure that you gain consistency with a relaxed, calm nature to feel good and so the people around you feel like you’re authentic. Gave that presence with your body so that you can convince the audience you’re genuine, and the biggest audience out there you’re convincing is your own self
    1. Try deep breathing
    1. Use Powerful poses.
    1. Take up a significant amount of space.
    1. Don’t slump in the corner in the room.
    1. Don’t be stuck on your phone.
  2. Remind yourself throughout the day to have a good posture to keep your body language open. Give power poses a try. Every once in a while, when you’re in a place by yourself, do a power pose. Be expansive. Stand out there like Wonder Woman, so you feel better about what you’re doing.
  3. Don’t doubt yourself; tear yourself apart or make yourself feel anxious by analyzing everything you do, everything you say, and how you said it. Keep positive about the things you’re saying and the things you’re doing. If you find that you’re not saying them in the right way or doing them in the right way, you correct them immediately. This is not an all-or-nothing thing. Just try to keep your presence as much as you can.
  4. Remember to listen; hearing other people will help them hear you will make them feel empowered. And in fact shows your power because you’re willing to listen, hear other people and respond to them in a way that makes sense to the conversation you’re having. It is a sign that you are confident when you can listen to other people and respond to them where they’re at. They will feel heard, and they will become a true ally of yours.

Challenge

  • Try the power pose. Wait till you’re in a quiet place by yourself before you have a meeting with someone that’s going to stress you out. Try doing some power poses to see if it makes you feel more empowered and capable of having this tough conversation. Then when you’re in the meeting, try maintaining the power pose by taking up more space, having your arms out wider, and generally having more eye contact and more interaction with the person and see how you feel afterward.

Links

https://www.amycuddy.com/

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2021Happiness

40 – Find Friends & New Activities

by Jill

Summary

  1. Say yes to new adventures, yes to other people, and start saying ‘hi’ and introduce yourself
  2. Find clubs, sporting events, meetup groups, anything that you can get together with people and start making new friends.
  3. Keep your old friends and look to the friends of friends, work friends, networking groups, social events, and things you can go to to get to know people better.
  4. Look for online groups, chat groups, neighborhood groups, and things online where you could make friends. Then, get together with some of those people so that you can actually meet them in real life.
  5. Go out there, meet people. Don’t be afraid. Don’t feel like you’re going to get rejected. Realize that meeting people takes a little more work than it used to. Keep an open mind about people. Find friends who are of different religions, different political parties, different from you have current interests. Some of those friendships are the most incredible friendships of all. They give you a different perspective in life and sometimes challenge what you believe. It’s not about finding a clone. It’s about finding someone who can be your friend and giving them a chance,

Challenge

  • Take the small step and talk to people you’ve never met before. Look at grocery stores or your gym and just say ‘hi,’ and start with small talk. Then, build on that conversation based on the topics you discussed. You’re not looking for lifelong friends. You’re looking at trying to get better at meeting people and getting to know something about them.
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39 – Good Grief!

by Jill

 Summary

  1. There is no one way people feel loss, mourning, or grief.
  2. Understand some of the symptoms of loss. You can feel everything from being unwell in your body to feeling emotionally unhealthy. It can take the face of anger or bitterness or anger empathy. Understand the emotions that are involved for you when you are feeling grief.
  3. Understand there’s no timetable. There’s no structure for when you have to be over it. It can last days, weeks, months, depends on what it is, and it depends on how tough you’re feeling at that particular moment. Sometimes when something bad happens to us, and we’ve been in a great mood, we get over it quickly. Sometimes when we’re not, it takes a little bit longer
  4. Make sure that you find a ritual to mark the end of whatever it is in this loss. If it’s the end of a job, or relationship, or a pandemic, make sure that you have a ritual to end it. Then take a nap, relax, connect with other people. Try new hobbies, habits, and events. Get together and connect with other people in your life or meet new people. Forgive the people around you for what went wrong.
  5. Ensure that you keep yourself healthy by avoiding bad habits and things that have been addictions for you in the past, whether it’s drinking or video games. Adopt healthy habits. Make sure that you’re getting enough sleep, enough exercise, and that you’re eating right. Even if you didn’t do it before this event happened, start doing it now.
  6. Look to your faith. Look to the faith of people around you, even if you don’t have a faith. Get some counseling to help you walk through the process of grief and to give you an outside perspective. Know when you need professional counseling, whether it’s someone inside of faith or a regular counselor, coach or psychologist, or psychiatrist

Links

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38 – Let Adversity Make You Awesome

by Jill

Summary

  1. Instead of being anxious about your life, become ready to make changes,
  2. Become failure-proof, and figure out how you will accomplish all the things you want and what you’re going to do if these things don’t go through.
  3. Uses the magic words in a sentence. Remember, in any sentence, you can say  …   and “yet.” Once we do that, that sentence helps us take that sting of negativity out of what didn’t go right with us.
  4. Move the spotlight. You think everyone’s looking at you. You believe everyone notices what you’re doing? And what’s going wrong in your life? But to be honest, nobody is
  5. See anything that is a failure or didn’t go the way you hoped it would? As a step. What did you learn from it? How is this going to help you do better in the future?
  6. Understand that you can’t see the future. You don’t know what’s behind the next band. But you got here into this place in your life, from a combination of successes and failures. And you’re going to continue to grow in the future, with more wins and more losses. And because you were able to handle them in the past, you will manage them better in the future. You can be grateful for things that don’t go right, that they will make you better in the past, that there are things that did go right even though it looks like a lot of things went wrong. Focus on what made you who you are today, and then tell a different story about it. Tell a positive story about it.
  7. Remember that when you have failures, often, it’s a sign that you really want to change, that you really want to do something new, and you picked a big goal. Take those steps of learning and figure out how you can actually accomplish the things you wanted. Even if it didn’t work the last time, pat yourself on the back that you took on a challenge that was hard to do.

Challenge

  • Try reframing a story. Think about something that you’ve always considered a negative in your past, and then try to reframe the story about what went right instead.

Links

You Are Awesome: How to Navigate Change, Wrestle with Failure, and Live an Intentional Life (Book of Awesome Series, The) by [Neil Pasricha]
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