Goals

Summary

• Neutral Thinking is the Key – Thinking with emotion lies to us all the time. It tells us we can’t do things. It tells us we deserve things when we have not earned it. By looking at things with a cool, calm eye, we can see the fundamental goals and the actual hurdles in the way.
• Have a Plan – If you wanted to drive somewhere or cook a meal, you would have a recipe or a route, but we think we can win things without plans. A solid plan will get you to the goal you are striving to obtain.
• Be the GOAT With Behavior – Tiny behaviors move us toward goals. We can never be the best until we get these behaviors in line. Every meal or bedtime or every action moves us towards the goals or away from them.
• You Don’t Have Choice – You think you have choices, but in the end, the path to success is narrow, and you have to follow the way that other people who succeeded with your goals have gone down.
• Review with a Neutral Eye – Review your goals and the path and your progress with a neutral eye to determine how you are doing. For example, what do you need to change, or what would you need to keep going to succeed.
• Put In Guardrails – Guardrails protect us from going into the ditch. However, they can be limited to protect our successes. How can you put in guard rails in your life to keep your goals from being lost?
• The Little Choices Matter – to get to the right behaviors, you have to follow tiny decisions. These decisions have to do with the tiny behaviors that either move you towards your goal. Once these decisions are in place and the guard drails are set up, you can have more confidence you will get successful.

Challenge

• My challenge to you this week is to think of one way to make a positive change in the small things you do that’s dragging you away from the one thing you want to get done.

Links

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Jj1rl7zGfA
• https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07R8VDNMJ/

• Quit or Grit? Should you stick things out or quit things that are not working? The answer is you have to quit the things that are not beneficial or not what you should spend time on. You should stick to the things you should do for yourself and others. If you are making progress but are stuck. Persevere and take on the challenge to see it through.
• We like easy things over success or fear of failure. The secret to success and fulfilling life is to go for the tasks that are not easy. Challenge yourself! Accomplish demanding tasks that will progress your life and the lives of others.
• To overcome a complex challenge, try all sorts of solutions. The best way to overcome complicated challenges is to experiment and look at the task with fresh thoughts.
• Have an implementation intention. That means you have a plan and a target date to start your tasks. Make sure you know what you will do when hurdles happen, even those inside your own brain. If X then you will do Y. You will now encounter tough times or feelings of defeat or the desire to do the easy thing. Know what your plan will be.
• Be realistic in all goals and plans
• Know people who can give you wise advice and introduce you to other people. Find those super connectors in your life. Be a great listener. Help people, including your mentors.
• Have a realistic view of who you are. When you “believe in yourself,” back those thoughts with evidence of why you should do so. Find proof that you can succeed in certain aspects of your life.
• Working hard is essential. It makes people great at what they do. But we are not machines, and we need to do other things for our own sanity and improve our productivity. Moreover, other people love and depend on us to be balanced.
• Know what your work and life expectations are from others. Ask them if you do not know the answer.
• Have a shutdown ritual, so your brain and body know it is time to step away when you quit on time.

Links

• https://www.bakadesuyo.com/
• https://www.amazon.com/Barking-Wrong-Tree-Surprising-Everything/dp/0062416049

Do you have to be aggressive or mean to get ahead in the world? On the other hand, can a nice person get ahead and still be the person they hope they are?

Links

• https://smallstepspod.com/?p=2785
• https://www.bakadesuyo.com/
• https://www.amazon.com/Barking-Wrong-Tree-Surprising-Everything/dp/0062416049

Summary

• Pleasing the Boss is Most Important – Do what your boss expects, and impressing them is the most important thing. People who don’t manage this impression won’t be saved even with outstanding performance.
• Jerks Thrive – They do get ahead, but it might only be in the short-term because people learn not to trust them and the other people who are “takers” bring them down.
• Honor Among Thieves – Even evil organizations thrive by depending on other people and trusting them to behave to group members. If an organization is made up entirely of bad people or jerks, the company fails.
• Can Givers Get Ahead? – Givers give and give too much, and often time they are found at the bottom of organizations or not achieving their goals.  They can succeed by not giving to the point of their own projects failing. By throttling their time, they can thrive while helping others. They can make the best use of their given time and finish their own work and get ahead.
• Prisoners Dilemma – Is it best to be trustworthy even when it offers you pain, or should you serve yourself even If it costs trust in your own character? Experiments show that people who play a “tit for tat” line will get ahead.
• Generous Tit For Tat – Be the first to forgive and the first to give. Don’t be the first to misbehave towards another person. Doing “tit for tat” in a generous way will win your trust and friends. The Giver’s best assets are other givers.

Don’t Be In a Cult

Don’t Be a Mind Reader

Don’t Believe You Can Change Others

Don’t Be Lazy

Don’t Do Everything

• https://smallstepspod.com/?p=2223

Don’t Be Selfish

Don’t Be Self-Centered

Don’t Ignore The Future You

• https://smallstepspod.com/?p=2564

Don’t Cross Fences Without Knowing About It

How You Do One Thing Is How You Do Everything

• https://smallstepspod.com/?p=2334

The Serenity Prayer

• https://smallstepspod.com/?p=2297

Focus on Enhancing Your Strengths

Live the Experimental life

• https://smallstepspod.com/?p=2278

Bikes Only Go When You Pedal

Have Bandwidth

Do the Next Logical Step

Have Perspective

Get Help

Improve A Little Every Day

Learn From Everywhere

• https://smallstepspod.com/?p=2559

Look At Everything Like a Newcomer

Over Communicate

Understand many of the reasons that you don’t achieve your goals in life are because of an Upper Limit Problem. That means that you feel like you don’t deserve to get your goals or you’re not capable of getting them. Maybe you think other people will be upset with you.

If you get what you really want, remember, you want to make sure that you get out of the Zone of Incompetence. You get out of the Zone of Competence. You even get out of the Zone of Excellence. That’s the most dangerous one. Work your way into the Zone of Genius.

Remember the four hidden barriers. Those are unconscious barriers that will prevent you from getting the goals that you really want. Don’t feel fundamentally flawed, like you can’t get what you want. Don’t feel that this is disloyal, or you’ll be abandoned by other people. If you get what you want. Don’t believe anyone who tells you that getting what you want will be a more considerable burden and take more of your time to take more of your effort. When you get what you want, the new tasks seem like nothing. You get more done. And you give up the things that you don’t want to do

Write down a paragraph that talks about what it would look like if you’re doing all the things inside your Zone of Genius. What would your day look like? What would your life look like? How exciting would it be to live your new life? How energizing would it be to do those things every day?

Get into your Zone of Genius by thinking about the things that are effortless for you. That time just slips away. They call it being in the flow. Then look at the things that drag you down and feel like they take a long time. It’s hard for you to actually get them done. Time is so slow when you’re doing these things because you don’t like it. Maybe you’re not even good at it. Make sure that it incorporates your unique abilities and the things you love to do.

Remember the Enlightened No, which means anything that is not inside your Zone of Genius. You say no. Obviously, that’s easy for you to do when you’re in control of your whole life. Many times at work, you can’t say no to things. But when you can, make sure that you don’t say yes to the things that are not helping you stay inside your Zone of Genius.

Challenge

• Pick one thing you’re doing today that is not inside your Zone of Genius. Maybe it’s inside your Zone of Excellence. Say the Enlightened No to it. Stop doing it now!

Links

https://hendricks.com/product/the-big-leap/

Summary

We examine the life of Dwayne Johnson, Charles Schultz, Grace Hopper, Frederick Douglas, Malala Yousafzai and apply the Genius Notebook rules to them.

• Create a summary of achievements, quick biography of all the different landmarks they made in their lives.
• Answer the question about how it relates to you. For example, why do you admire this trait?
• Trait this particular person’s life and how it is beneficial to you? What do you think that you could learn from that?
• Write up a list of traits and indicate which traits you share with that person and which ones you don’t share?
• What does the trait look like in your daily life?
• How does this trait fit in your dreams, your goals, anything that you wish to attain
• Could the traits help you in your love-life, work-life, and daily personal life?
• Do a creative challenge based on the person’s life. Make it interesting!

Challenge

• Pick on a person who you could use the lessons that they’ve learned in their lives, the traits they have in their lives, and make your life better to make the world a better place.

Links

https://azzarellogroup.com/

Summary

1. Ensure that you find a mentor and connect with people who can help you understand your next job and the jobs around you so that you can take them on and that you can slide right into those new jobs. Understand what they are and how you’re going to help
2. Make sure you keep up with your old connections, friends in the company, co-workers that you talk to you regularly find out how they are doing. Find out how they’re doing. Find out how their teams are doing. Sometimes you’re able to help them because you know something that would make their lives better. Sometimes they can help you because they understand something. But it also makes your working life so much richer when you have people around you that you love to talk to. You might keep up with them on social media. LinkedIn is a great place to find your customers, your past co-workers. Keep those connections alive in any way you can and go to lunch with people.
3. Make a list of good ideas for the company and keep thinking about new ideas. Idea-making is like any other skill. Once you practice it every day, it gets better and better at it.
4. Figure out the job that needs to be done. Find someone who’s doing that job or something close to it.Interview them, make sure that you understand what the job takes, what the job is like, and some of the hardships in the job so that you’re prepared for that.
5. Act confident, even if you’re not. If you’re not confident, and you act like it, you’re already sunk, and there’s just no point in it.
6. Tell the story of what you will do. Don’t talk about your past. Don’t talk about your skills. Instead, paint the picture of your goals and how you would make things so much better in your company. And then start doing that job. Even if you don’t get it. Prove to people that you’re good at it, and that you should be on the list for the next time that kind of position comes up.

Challenge

• Try a little experiment and start writing a daily list of 10 things that are just great ideas. You can do it for work if work is what you’re trying to improve in your life. Or you could do it for your home life. Become a better ideas person by doing it every day.