Introduction: Why I’m Sharing My Story
Hi, I’m Jill from the North Woods. ADHD has been a huge part of my life, even before I knew what to call it. For years, I struggled with its challenges—feeling restless, distracted, and like I could never quite keep up. But through trial and error, and a lot of self-reflection, I found ways to manage and even thrive. I want to share my story, not because I have all the answers, but because I know what it’s like to feel stuck. If you’re living with ADHD or supporting someone who is, I hope my journey can help you in some way.
What ADHD Means to Me
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is often boiled down to a few key traits: inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. But for me, it’s always been more than that. As a kid, I was the one who couldn’t sit still, the one always getting in trouble for talking too much or staring out the window instead of paying attention in class. Back then, there was no diagnosis or name for it. I was just labeled the “troublemaker.”
Looking back, the inattention was the hardest part. My mind would drift, and I’d find myself in what I called my “happy place.” Sometimes, that escape was a blessing—like on long plane rides when I could lose myself in daydreams. But in school, it was a problem. I couldn’t focus long enough to keep up with lessons, and the frustration of knowing I was smart but not meeting expectations was crushing.
Navigating My Early Struggles
Growing up, I had no idea why I struggled to focus or stay organized. I’d forget to pay bills on time, even when I had the money, and I couldn’t finish long-term projects without getting distracted. My hyperfocus was just as tricky. I could lose hours playing computer games or diving into a random topic, only to realize I’d completely forgotten about everything else I needed to do.
In school, I learned to mask my struggles. I’d sit quietly, pretending to listen, even when my mind was racing. I figured out little tricks to cope—volunteering to run errands just to get out of my seat or finding ways to work on group projects where I wouldn’t let others down. But these were temporary fixes. Inside, I felt like I was barely holding it together.
Finding My Turning Point
Everything changed when I hit my twenties and got a job that demanded more than I thought I could give. It was a sink-or-swim situation. If I didn’t step up, I’d lose my job—and the house I had just bought. So, I had to get serious about finding solutions.
That’s when I discovered the magic of tools like planners, to-do lists, and digital calendars. Technology became my lifeline. I started taking notes on my computer instead of by hand because my handwriting was so messy I couldn’t read it anyway. I also realized that external accountability—like coworkers depending on me—was a powerful motivator. Slowly but surely, I began to create systems that worked with my ADHD instead of against it.
Lessons I’ve Learned Along the Way
- Know What Motivates You: For me, it’s helping others. I’ll show up for someone else in a way I might not for myself. Once I recognized that, I leaned into it, taking on roles that allowed me to support others while staying accountable.
- Embrace Technology: Apps and reminders are my best friends. They keep me on track when my brain wants to wander.
- Be Kind to Yourself: ADHD can be frustrating, but beating yourself up doesn’t help. Instead, I’ve learned to laugh at my quirks and focus on what I can do to make life easier.
- Experiment with Solutions: Whether it’s caffeine for a quick focus boost or structured routines, I’ve tried it all. Some things work better than others, but the key is not giving up.
The Emotional Side of ADHD
ADHD isn’t just about distractions and restlessness; it’s emotional, too. For years, I struggled with feelings of inadequacy. Teachers would tell me I was smart, but my grades didn’t reflect it. I felt like I was always falling short.
What helped me was reframing how I saw ADHD. Yes, it has its downsides, but it’s also part of what makes me creative, curious, and driven. Once I started focusing on those positives, I felt more empowered to tackle the negatives.
Looking Back and Moving Forward
Today, I’ve found a balance that works for me. Sure, I still get distracted or hyperfocused sometimes, but I’ve learned how to manage it. I’m also on a medication now that helps me focus better than ever, and it’s been eye-opening to see how much easier some things have become.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that ADHD doesn’t have to hold you back. With the right tools, support, and mindset, you can live a fulfilling, productive life. My journey isn’t over, but I’m proud of how far I’ve come—and I hope my story inspires you to take your next step, too.
Thank you for reading my story. If you’d like to share yours or have questions, feel free to email me at [email protected]. Let’s keep the conversation going—you’re not alone in this.
